How to make a bad situation worse

Have you ever had a bad customer service experience that was exacerbated by the organization’s response to the problem? Probably. It certainly happens to me often. When I don’t “get my way” as a customer, I’m frustrated. But if that frustration is met with an unfeeling, robot-like response, I’m livid.

Consider this scenario:

A customer orders an item that is supposed to be delivered in seven to 10 business days. In 10 days she has an event where she plans to wear the item. Unfortunately, it doesn’t arrive in time; it shows up on the 11th day. She returns it, and the company refunds her, less the shipping cost. The customer is frustrated because she feels the shipping fee should have been refunded as well, since the item was late, and that was the cause of the return. But when she contacts the company to explain the situation, she receives a response like one of these:

Dear Customer X,

We apologize for the inconvenience. Unfortunately, our return policy does not refund shipping. Thank you for understanding.

Have a nice day,
Employee Z

Or

Dear Customer X,

We apologize for the inconvenience. Your account has been credited $7.00 to cover shipping.

We appreciate your business,
Employee Z

A customer who received the first email is going to be furious, partially because she didn’t get what she wanted, but also because the response is so nonspecific and unfeeling it could have been automated. And while a customer who received the second message might not be as angry, she probably doesn’t feel support or empathy from the company. It’s unlikely that she’ll complain further, but she might take her business elsewhere in the future, even though her request was granted. Consider these alternative responses:

 Dear Customer X,

I am very sorry that your order didn’t come in time for your event! I can imagine the frustration that must have caused you. If there was any way for me to refund your shipping cost I would, but unfortunately our return policy cannot cover standard shipping, as that arrival time is estimated, not guaranteed. Once we send out a shipment through standard mail, there’s really no way for us to control its arrival. However, I don’t want you to be frustrated, so I’d like to offer you this 20% off code for your next order: Save_20. 

Again, I’m very sorry,
Employee Z

Or

Dear Customer X,

I am very sorry that your order didn’t come in time for your event! I can imagine the frustration that must have caused you. Of course I will refund your shipping fee. I also want to assure you that it is very, very rare for our shipments to arrive after the estimated arrival window, so I hope you’ll feel confident to shop with us again.

Please let me know if I can be of any more help,
Employee Z

A customer who received the third email might still be frustrated, but not nearly to the extent she would be if she received the first example. Being spoken to like a real human being makes a big difference. And a customer who received the final email would be appeased on two levels: for receiving the refund and for getting what appears to be a sincere, heartfelt apology.

I understand that no organization can always give the customer what he or she wants, but every organization can respond to disappointed customers with respect and empathy.

We’d love to hear your tips for responding to customer complaints. Please share them in the Comments section.

Is it “I” or “me”?

By Kendall Martin

It has come to my attention that even fellow English majors in the office misuse the pronouns “me” and “I.” More and more I think that happens because people believe that “I” sounds more proper—even when “me” is actually correct.

Follow these guidelines and avoid pronoun confusion:

  • Use “I” when the pronoun is the subject of the verb. Example: Jane and I are going to lunch.
     
  • Use “me” when the pronoun is the object of the verb. Example: The dog followed Jane and me to the door.
     
  • Still unsure? Remove the other noun or pronoun from the sentence. Example: John gave my boss and I the most recent report.
     
    First, remove the words “my boss and.” Next, read the modified sentence: “John gave I the most recent report.” Now you can tell that the sentence is incorrect. The correct pronoun is “me.”

What other grammar lessons confuse you … or those around you?

Write second

My editor was so frustrated with me that I thought his head might explode, and later I understood why.

As a rookie reporter, I had returned from a county commission meeting unsure how to write my story for the newspaper. So I started typing in paragraphs based on my notes, figuring that I would rearrange them later in an order that made sense.

Greg told me that was no way to write, and he was right.

If you can’t write a headline or introduction, you haven’t thought enough about what you want to convey in your writing or speech.

Sure you can jot down ideas that you want to include, but don’t try to write a first draft. If you aren’t clear yourself about what you want your readers or listeners to take away, you aren’t ready to compose the body.

You can revise or rewrite it later, but consider your topic long enough to write some type of introduction before you draft anything else.

Think first; write second.

What’s your advice for writing a first draft?

Open doors with powerful communication

Think about the most successful people you know. Chances are they’re a diverse group, varying in age, gender, personality and background, right? But I’m guessing they have one thing in common. I bet they’re all powerful communicators.

It doesn’t matter what field you’re in or what title you hold. Being a strong communicator—an “Ultimate Communicator”—will catapult your career. Here are some of the reasons why:

  1. Others look to you for leadership. Ultimate Communicators know how to influence and motivate others, so it’s only natural that people turn to them for guidance. Plus, they always convey professionalism and confidence, impressing those around them.
     
  2. People want to work with you. Ultimate Communicators make others feel appreciated, interesting and important—so people flock to them. And when it’s time to deliver negative feedback, Ultimate Communicators deliver it in such a way that it feels constructive instead of accusatory.
     
  3. Misunderstandings don’t monopolize their days. Because Ultimate Communicators know how to give clear and concise directions the first time, they don’t have to clean up nearly as many messes. And they understand what messages they send with their word choice, body language and tone of voice, so they rarely offend people and cause conflicts.
     
  4. They’re always learning and growing. Ultimate Communicators understand that listening is just as important—if not more—than speaking and writing well. With their strong listening skills, they’re constantly developing new ideas and skills.

If you want to join that elite group, register for one of these Ultimate Communicator workshops, led by Carl Smith and Guy Harris, in March:

  • March 5-6: Kansas City, Mo.
     
  • March 8-9: Cincinnati, Ohio
     
  • March 12-13: Virginia Beach, Va.
     
  • March 15-16: Sacramento, Calif.
     
  • March 19-20: Anaheim, Calif.
     
  • March 22-23: Phoenix
     
  • March 26-27: Chicago

Want to look further ahead on the schedule? Check out the complete list of workshop dates and locations.

Tell us about an Ultimate Communicator you know.

Never misspell or mispronounce a word again

My friend Jessica thought she was going to bust her daughter for playing on a smartphone when the girl was supposed to be studying spelling words. Instead, Abi explained “I wanted to hear how to pronounce this word,” and the phone said “Autumn.”

The 9-year-old explained to her mom that the Dictionary.com mobile app will speak words for you.

Abi’s story led me to check out dictionary applications for my smartphone, and I download the Merriam-Webster app, which offers similar features to the Dictionary.com app.

Here’s what you can do from your smartphone or iPad:

  • Voice search for a word. The feature worked when I pronounced “downtown” with my best Pittsburgh accent, “dahn-tahn,” and successfully located “y’all.”
     
  • Listen to the correct pronunciation of a word.
     
  • Find synonyms for the words you look up.
     
  • Learn a Word of the Day.

You don’t need an Internet connection to search words, but you may need one for some features, depending on the app. Free apps are available, or you can pay $2.99 for an ad-free version with premium features, such as illustrations.

With an app like that at your fingertips, you have no excuse for making a mistake with a word, even if you didn’t study your spelling words when you should have in elementary school.

What apps do you recommend?